Two days ago, one of my best friends called me in the middle of the night and mumbled in her crying, “I broke up.” And after long conversation about how she wasn’t supposed to be with him at the first place, she yelled at me, “Gosh! Everyone said that! And why didn’t everyone tell mew long time ago?”
“Coz you were still with him. And it’s not appropriate.”
“But friends should tell everything.”
“Nope, friends tell you what you want to hear. Friends support you even it was impossible thing to do. Friends always believe in you. And we somehow wished that we could believe you.”
So, that call reminds me of the book/movie “He’s just not that into you!” which show how naïve women are, and we really should change, girls!!
It’s time for tough love!
You shouldn’t get married, if these words ever occurred to your mind at least twice:
1. Does he really love me?
If he really loves you sincerely, you won’t ever question him or his love. Trust me. I’m very sure about that.
2. We’ve already been in this relationship for too long. I’m too lazy to start over a new relationship.
Being in a long-term relationship doesn’t mean you have to stay in it even though you knew you didn’t love him anymore. You’ve tried so hard to make yourself fall in love with him again, but you keep failing, but you deny it to leave your comfort zone. If it wasn’t working then, and it’s not working now, then it will NEVER work. Leave your comfort zone (relationship) for good.
3. Will he ever cheat again? (If your boyfriend ever cheated.)
If you’re living with a paranoid mind that he will cheat again if you didn’t call him 24/7 or be with him 24/7, then you’ll live with it for the rest of your life. You’ll always be nauseous every time he goes with his friends or meet new clients, and girls, it’s not healthy at all. And the more you imagine it, the real it’s gonna be. Shame on him if he fools you once, shame on you if he fools you twice! So, if you think that you won’t ever trust him again, leave him.
4. Everyone would be so jealous to know I marry a rich/handsome guy!
Get real, He won’t always be rich and he won’t always be handsome. But YOU could be always smart! So, start being smart now by leaving him.
5. I know that he would change when we get married.
Whatever he does, is it hitting, abusing, cheating, lying, possessive, and other things he said he would change.
No, he won’t! And you will say “I married with the wrong reason” some years from now if you’re still marrying him for that reason.
16 November 2009
You SHOULDN'T get married!
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